“Gentlemen, start your engines” is often code indicating that a penis is filling with blood to prepare for a thrilling sexual encounter. But what happens if one’s partner is also starting her engine – and in this case, the engine is an actual vibrating toy? Men tend to like competition, but it’s easier if the playing field is level; even if a man is a devotee of excellent penis care, can his man-tool hope to compete with her electric tool? The answer is yes – if he prepares properly. These sex tips can help.
Know your enemy.
If a man is going to overcome an enemy, it’s best if he knows everything he can about it – and that includes a sex toy. Some men will balk at this, but a guy can learn a lot by using a vibrator himself. There is a wide range of shapes, sizes and features on the market, so knowing what’s out there and how all of them work is probably beyond the capability of most men. Still, exploring some of the options – a vibrating egg, a vibrating wand, etc. – is within the reach of most men. And it can be fun.
After having selected a vibrator, a man needs to use it on his own penis to see what kind of sensations it inspires. If he’s comfortable, he could also indulge in at least a little anal exploration as well. While the sensations this evokes may not be comparable to those created when a vibrator explores a vagina, it at least gives a man some idea of the way in which the instrument is held, moved and utilized. Besides, many men (of all sexual orientations) find that anal stimulation is quite pleasurable.
Watch and learn.
If one’s partner is willing, a man can learn a great deal from observing her as she masturbates. Whether using a vibrator or not, the manner in which she fingers and stimulates herself, the strokes that she uses, the angles that she employs, the rhythms that she favors – all of this is valuable information that a man can store in his memory and use himself, whether pleasuring her with his hands, his mouth or his penis.
Of special interest is the way in which the vibrator is employed. A man may not have an electronic motor inside his body, but he can simulate a decent degree of vibratory motion when having sex. Pay attention to the vibratory rate that one’s partner uses (and how she may change that rate at various times), as well as to the shallowness or depth of penetration of the device. It’s also essential to note the movement of the partner’s legs, with an emphasis on when she spreads the legs wide and when she clutches them tightly closed.
Don’t stick with the prick.
The penis is an excellent organ, but the fingers and tongue can also be employed to provide sensations similar to those obtained with the vibrator. Oral sex, properly performed, can create ecstasy in a woman; using one’s finger or thumb to stimulate the clitoris and G-spot can also be enormously effective. And a man shouldn’t be afraid to let his partner guide him in his quest to give her sexual excitement.
Take advantage of it.
Finally, a man shouldn’t be afraid of using his partner’s vibrator in their mutual sex play. Many women get a special thrill when their man maneuvers the vibrator around the erogenous zones. Using the vibrator during foreplay can bring a woman to near orgasm, allowing a hard penis to then come in and bring it all home.
Of course, a penis that is rough and sore won’t be up for competing with a vibrator – so regularly using a top-quality penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) is clearly a good idea. Those creams that include L-arginine can help with nitric oxide production, which in turn helps with penis blood flow. And the cream should also include acetyl L-carnitine, which helps restore lost sensitivity, in order to keep the member in full bloom in terms of experiencing pleasurable sensations.